Infidelity In A Marriage- 9 Ways To Rebuild The Love And Intimacy

After experiencing an infidelity in a marriage, one of the hardest things to do is get back that loving feeling whether it be outside or inside the bedroom. Although many couples want to save the marriage and still have deep feelings for each other, it feels near impossible for the injured party to put aside the hurt and betrayal and show emotional or physical affection. Here are 7 ways to rebuild the love and intimacy after experiencing an infidelity in a marriage. 1. Set aside designated time to talk about the infidelity in your marriage. Although you may have to bite your tongue not to bring the affair up whenever you have an urge, it's beneficial to the relationship if a certain time and place are designated to discuss the affair and how you want to deal with it. Setting aside a designated time and place will help you both focus on the task at hand and encourage the conversation to be more deliberate and productive.
2. Express your dissatisfaction differently. Many couples resort to insulting, jabbing and sarcasm to get their point across. If your angry, disappointed or not pleased with your partners actions, try to express your dissatisfaction by telling them your true feelings. Use "I" messages rather than "you" and keep the criticism and contempt out of the arguments. For example, if your spouse is late for dinner, explain you prepared a special meal and it hurts your feelings that you didn't even get a phone call vs you're always late. Whats wrong with you! 3. Listen without interrupting. Yes, your spouse is saying what you believe to be stupid things, but try not to interrupt. Really listen to your partner before forming your come back thoughts. This is difficult to do but will allow you both to engage in a more rational discussion rather than being hot-headed and arguing.
4. Take time to engage in new activities you both enjoy doing. Try doing different things you might always have been interested in. Take a long evening walk in a different area, cook together, try taking a dancing lesson together or splurge on a short weekend getaway. This will enable the two of you to interact differently which will add a different element into the relationship. 5. Focus on the good. Sounds simple yet infidelity in a marriage makes this extremely difficult. Yes, you married each other because you liked what you saw and how your partner made you feel. Keep in mind if your spouse has no good qualities remaining, you should not be with them! Really focus on what you admire, and find attractive about your partner. Remember, what you focus on expands. 6. Be grateful for having each other. It's difficult to think in these terms after you've been hurt so badly, but try to recall what your husband or wife has brought to your life. Marriage provides us with lessons in love, companionship, intimacy and in many cases, beautiful children. What lessons has this relationship taught you? We hook up with people for a reason. Each person participating in your life provides you with something of value. 7. When it comes to physical intimacy, go slow. If you've been cheated on, getting your sexual desire back is often difficult. Take your time and don't rush your feelings. Hand holding, a back rub or foot massage will eventually lead to hugging, kissing and more. Remember, the largest erogenous zone is the brain. Focusing on your feelings first is highly recommended. 8. Talk about sex. Discussing where the two of you went wrong, what your preferences are and how you can get the sexual relationship back into your marriage is a great place to start. This works as foreplay by getting into the right frame of mind.

9. Seek counsel. There have been countless couples that have experienced infidelity in a marriage and came out the other side with a stronger more loving relationship. Some couples figure out how to do this on their own and other couples require some structure and guidance. Marriage counsellors, therapists and group therapy are all a great way to mend the relationship. However, some couples feel extremely uncomfortable going this route or don't have the funds to take part in this form of counselling. If this is the case, a wealth of information is available online and at your local library which can guide you to rebuilding a stronger more loving marriage. Rebuilding the love and intimacy after infidelity in a marriage takes some time and effort, but many couples have come out much stronger for the effort. If you and your spouse are committed to rebuilding your marriage, you can get that loving feeling back too!

MAKE A WOMAN CUM, STEP BY STEP INSTRUCTIONS- GUARANTEED TO WORK

Here are step by step instructions to make a woman cum. It is quite easy when you know how, and of course it is a skill worth knowing! OK, how to make a woman cum, step by step. First, don't be in a hurry. Start with a slow relaxing massage. Tell her you enjoy giving massage, and that you are here to please her, and that she doesn't have to do anything except relax and enjoy it. Have the woman lie on her stomach, and start with her upper back, and use some scented massage oil. If you have more than one kind, ask her to smell them, and use the one she prefers. Maybe she has mentioned it, or if not you can ask her if she has a stiff neck or shoulders or if it she has a knot in her back somewhere. If so, do your best to work out the knot or stiffness. This will be appreciated and it will show you care. Pause to pour a bit of oil on your hands as needed, and when you reach for the oil, always maintain touch on her. Turn your hand palm up while touching her with the back of that hand, while you pour oil into your palm. Remember to always maintain touch. Work your way down her back, and then massage each buttock, one at time with both hands, like you are kneading a big ball of bread dough. Work your way down her thighs, and then down to her calves and feet. Massage her feet, including the balls of her feet, using your knuckles. Have her roll over, and start working your way up from her feet. When you get to her thighs, massage her upper thighs, and several times get very close to her pussy, but do not touch it! Then onto her stomach, using a circular motion on her stomach with both hands. Slide your hands up her sides and when you get near her shoulders, ask her to pull her hair back if it is longer so you don't get oil in it. From her shoulders, rub down her arms and massage the palms of her hands by rolling your knuckles in each hand. Then up to her shoulders, and then her upper chest. Massage her breasts, in circular motions, both directions, paying attention to her nipples. Pull her nipples a bit, gently. Then put one hand on her pussy, palm up, and pour some oil into your palm. Put the oil away and part her pussy lips and lube up her clitoris with oil. You should at this point be squatted opposite her midsection. Use different massage motions on her clit.... back and forth, up and down, in a circle, and then reverse the circle...... while doing this talk to her, asking her if she likes the rubbing up and down, side to side, circular clockwise or circular counter clockwise, and faster or slower, or harder or softer. This is important! She will appreciate that you care enough to want to really please her. It will also make your job easier and more fun! When you have determined the motion and intensity that is just right, keep doing it, and lean over and suck one of her nipples. (the closest one!) Suck soft and then harder, and then pause and ask her to tell you how hard to suck. Keep rubbing her clit as before. After a while start rubbing lighter, so light that it might almost seem too light. Listen to her verbal cues, as to whether to keep at it really lightly, or to increase the pressure somewhat. If you increase the pressure, increase it just a bit. When you feel she is getting ready to cum, increase the intensity, but not too much. Keep doing this and keep sucking her nipple till she cums. This is guaranteed to work if you don't rush and do everything just right.

Secrets To A Breast Massage Stimulation Orgasm That Will Have Your Woman Wanting A Lot More Sex

Guys do not realise that if they spend a lot of time in breast foreplay stimulation, their woman can have a breast orgasm. Most men and women use some form of breast massage in foreplay and pleasure. Breast massage is used to firm the breasts and to check for any health issues, it can also be used for sexual arousal. Many men forget to pay much attention to the breast in sex. Breast massages orgasms, while common for some woman, have not received attention in books or magazines. Studies have shown that female breast massage will increase the change of a woman having an orgasm. The breast is the positive pole of woman's sexuality. The positive pole of a man is his penis. The key in foreplay is to stimulate the positive pole of a woman so her heart opens. Then she will be open for her negative pole, which is her vulva, to get wet. Men rush to the vulva without spending enough time for a woman to get really aroused. Studies show that this takes 20 minutes. Women have erectile tissue around the vulva that fills with blood. This takes at least 20 minutes. Most Women NEVER get fully aroused. Most men make love in less than 15 minutes. This means that their lover never gets fully aroused EVER! Men then wonder why their partner turns off sex after a year or so. Then the man discovers that she is having an affair with a man who really takes his time. SEX KEY: Make Foreplay Last for 30 Minutes! Adding breast massage is a wonderful way to turn on a woman. I suggest not starting with this area. Start on the less hot zones of your lover's body, like kissing and stroking her all over. The neck is a highly erotic area for most women. Kissing the fingers and toes is one area that most men miss. How to Start a Breast Massage One way to start the massage is to just place your palm on her heart area. Just hold and let the heat of your hand stimulate your lover. When a woman does not have a lover she can do a breast massage orgasm in the privacy of her own home. One can start by first gently pressing your breast from inner nipple to the outer side. The pressure must not be fast or hard. Be very sensual and gentle. Touch yourself for pleasure with slow and gentle strokes. Breast Massage Stimulation Strokes One stroke that I love to do is a lifting action. I hold the breast in one hand and gently lift the breast. Sometimes I do this stroke for 5 minutes. Look into your lover's eyes as you do this stroke. See if you can connect the heart energy through he eyes. Next try kneading the breast. Then, for greatest pleasure, rub the breasts with the palm of your hand in a clockwise and anti clockwise pattern. The use of massage oil can take the massage up to a new level of sensuality and pleasure. Make sure you have warm massage oil. A sensitive woman can have a breast massage orgasm in about 15 to 20 minutes of breast stimulation. Once she has had an orgasm, she will really want you to penetrate her. Make sure you do not come too fast. Many women can come again and again. Most men stop much too soon. Really make intercourse last for 30 minutes or even hours. You will find that if you do this, your lover will want a lot more sex each week, sometimes much more than you can handle.

PLEASURE MAXIMIZING POSITIONS

It is not outrageous to think that women love sex. Realistically, some women fantasize about sex even more than their male counterparts. They think regularly with attention to detail about what they really desire. The positions that will be discussed are popular amongst women because they create a great balance between difficulty level and pleasure points. These sexual positions result in tons of pleasure for the least amount of effort required to pull them off. When it comes down to getting down and dirty, there are absolutely some sex positions that get women more aroused and excited than others. Not all positions are made equal. There are those that allows for deeper penetration or maybe a position that better stimulates the G-spot or clitoris. Here are some of the best pleasure- maximizing positions that you might want to try on your next romp. Her on Top Giving her full control of the reigns allows her to choose the kind of motion and rhythm that works for her. By being on top, she can choose whether she wants to stimulate her clitoris or G-spot. • Clitoral: Have her lean forward and arch her back while keeping her crotch low and really closely nestled on the base of yours. Hold her close to you and make sure her clitoris is completely laid flat on your lower abdomen. Instead of the usual up and down, fast horizontal jerks will work better or slow sensual circular motions. Make sure you have lots of lubrication. A nice water based warming or cooling lubricant (depending on your preference) will add to the experience. • G-spot For G-spot Stimulation, the opposite is required. Instead of leaning in close to you, she must arch her back while leaning back on her hands. This gives you a great view of her body as she rides you up and down. It gives very nearly the same stimulation as doggy style. Don't make her do all the work though, thrust according to her rhythm for deeper penetration.
If she is up for it, let her squat on top of you whilst leaning back on her hands. This gives an intense G-spot stimulation. This can be tiring for her so you can help by supporting her by holding her buttocks or torso as she moves up and down. Her on top... on the table or counter This position is very rewarding to her G-spot and the head of you penis, so you need utmost control or else you will cum very fast. This position involves her lying down spread eagle on the table or counter top and you standing up. Hold on to the back of her knees to pull her in closer for a deep thrust. Standing up against the wall This is like a variation of the dog style. Make her stand against the wall and take her in from behind while she arches her back and her buttocks are thrust closely towards you. Stimulate her clitoris while you penetrate her in deep to give her a clitoral and G-spot stimulation. With her butt, make her meet your every thrust with equal force and the same rhythm. It may be inevitable that she completely leans forward (still standing up but facing the floor); if this happens, hold on to her hips to keep her buttocks held high. Those are some of the best and easiest pleasure enhancing positions that require no complicated acrobatics on hers or your part. Have fun. Although some women will not like each position stated above, feel confident in knowing that most women do. Women will experiment in the hopes of keeping sex fresh and exciting. Sometimes a woman just wants to do a position that she knows will make her orgasm, and experimenting to find that position might require challenging the classic positions for more interesting and aerobic ones. So have fun and be safe when trying these pleasure maximizing positions.

7 FEMALE LIBIDO BOOSTER TIPS

Low libido in women or low sexual desire is the most common sexual problem affecting at least one-third of women. Some women are much distressed over this loss of libido, feeling as if they are letting their partners down. However there are many things women can do to rekindle their passion and bring pleasure back in their sex lives. What can cause the loss of libido in women? (1) Psychological issues Fear of pregnancy can hurt sex drive. This is especially so in those Roman Catholic societies where the church frowns on contraceptives and abortion. Problems with physical or mental health, medication, recreational drug abuse, past sexual abuse and daily life stress are other factors.
(2) Negative views on sex Double standards on sex can have a big effect on women's sexual desire. Men are looked at as studs if they are sexual, but women are being viewed negatively if they behave in the same way. Some of us are being fed with some negative sex beliefs such as sex is dirty or immoral, or should only be used for procreation. All these negative views can kill sex drive. (3) Biological factors Hormonal fluctuations due to pregnancy, breast-feeding and pre-menopause syndrome can lessen sexual desire. Vaginal dryness which can result from declining estrogen levels can cause painful sex and loss of libido. Testosterone level also affects libido in women which normally peaks when they are around 25 years old and declines from there until menopause.
(4) Relationship problems What happens outside the bedroom will eventually set the mood inside the bedroom. Conflict in other parts of the relationship can affect sex life. Differences over monetary matters, child rearing, and relationship with in-laws can result in anger, resentment and cause women to mentally shut out sex. How to rekindle the passion? (1) Focusing on own needs The thing that can most inhibit desire in women is to be too concerned about others at the expense of own interests and comfort. If women want to enjoy sex and have orgasm, they need to pander to their own needs and to do the things that can pleasure themselves. (2) Improving intimacy Before looking for ways to spice up sex life, it helps to work on improving the intimate connection first. Studies have proven that a simple touch can help to release endorphins in the brain that not only make us feel loved, but want to give love in return. Surprise her with an unexpected hug, a surprisingly romantic or a naughty tickling.
(3) Injecting some novelty Marriage life inevitably sinks into boredom and hurts libido if both gets too comfortable with routine. Change the place and time to have sex, experience with different sex positions, and create a conducive mood for sex in the bedroom, living room, kitchen or just anywhere you can imagine. Try role-playing to be someone or something else, dress up and play sexy games with your partner. Do something different or adventurous outside of the bedroom as well. Consider watching horror movies, riding a roller coaster, or doing bungee jump, trying an exotic cuisine with your partner in a newly opened restaurant. (4) Stimulating yourself It can be pressurizing for some women to have orgasm with their partners. A way to overcome this is to engage in masturbation. This process can help a woman to discover what and how she can be aroused. After knowing what feels good, you can guide your partner in how he can please you sexually.
(5) Using lubricants If vaginal dryness is a problem, go to a local pharmacy or sex shop where you can choose the different flavors and aromas of lubricants. Applying estrogen cream into the vagina can help to increase vaginal secretions. If possible, you can discuss with your doctor about the options before trying anything. (6) Having realistic expectations What you often see in porn movies is usually not an accurate reflection of reality and can be exaggerating at times. If sometimes you cannot have orgasm during sex, it can be due to some temporary factors and is not due to your fault. If you are concerned about how you look when naked that you want to make love with lights off, you are probably too harsh in evaluating your own body. Your partner probably finds you more attractive than you think you are. So you should relax, be kinder to yourself, just enjoy the process of lovemaking and gradually your libido will return.
(7) Having a deep conversation You should not expect your partner to be able to read your mind like a book all the time. If you want pleasure during sex, the simplest way is to let your partner knows what arouses you. Put your request in a compliment rather than a complaint. For example, you can say, "It really turns me on when you take your time on foreplay before we have sex." For discussions on sex, it is better for this to take place outside of the bedroom to avoid been too pressurizing to both sides. All strong relationships require communication, effort and a little commitment to spice things up.

How to Get Your Ex Boyfriend to Want You Back - Is Hooking Up With Another Guy a Good Idea?

Breaking up is always a painful
experience. It really hurts
because you feel rejected,
unloved and your confidence is
low.
It can be especially nasty when
you see you ex hooking up with
other girls and you feel the
pangs of jealousy. When you see
him with another women it
makes you want him even more
and you hate yourself for it.
The good news is you can win
him back. The following 'sneaky
mind tricks' will teach you how
to manipulate his 'emotional ape
brain' and use jealousy to your
advantage.
The first reaction after a break is
to plead and beg for forgiveness.
You feel let down and you wish
he would explain exactly why he
doesn't want to be with you
anymore. You feel jealous
thinking of him with other girls.
The trick is to use that jealousy to
your advantage.

You may also want to talk to him
and discuss things. These
feelings are born from
frustration and despair. You
need to avoid these feelings. You
can do this by focusing on
yourself instead of your
relationship and the break up.
And then there's psychology.
Modern advances mean we
understand a lot more about
attraction now then we ever did
before.
One example of this is hooking
up with other guys. The thought
of this can drive him crazy with
desire for you. You need to be
careful though. Done incorrectly
you could push him over the
edge and he may never want to
see you again. You need to use
the correct tricks just at the right
time.

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